Writing Vows and Ceremony Script 


If you do not need me to attend as celebrant (perhaps you would prefer family or friend to lead the ceremony), I am still available to compose and write the script and vows. See COSTS.

Writing Script - Ceremony Only


If you are happy to write your own vows but wish for the ceremony to be composed and written, I am available to do so. See COSTS.

Presentation Skills and Rehearsal


As a professional presentation tutor,  I am available to assist at rehearsals to quieten nerves and teach the skills necessary for the big day.

"You played a big part in orchestrating

their service, and we will never forget

how much love you put into it."


More and more people are deciding that the traditional way for marrying is not for them. The religious ceremony in a church, or the simplistic effect of a registry office does not, for one reason or another, offer what a couple has dreamed of.

A celebrant-led wedding, commitment, civil partnership ceremony is glorious as:


  • the venue can be anywhere: stately home, leafy glade, back garden, boat, beach, overseas etc;

  • no matter what, your own beliefs (or non at all) can be celebrated;

  • all diversity is welcomed;

  • weddings can be themed;

  • there can be as much family and friends' participation (and pets!)  as you like;

  • the wedding group can sit, stand, form a circle -  anything; 

  • anyone can speak with poems, songs, readings; every word spoken will be meaningful;

  • any music can play, at any time, during the service;

  • photographers, children, dogs and doves - the more the merrier;

  • traditions and rituals of unity candles, sand-pouring, hand-fasting, ring-warming can be participated in, and

  • most importantly - you get to say the vows that are meaningful to you both. No one is going to tell you what you have to repeat because of tradition. These will be special words of love and commitment, some of which only your partner will understand (all of which will have your audience shed a little tear no doubt). The real truth laid out, and one that you choose to share with family and friends, in your own way.


How awesome is that? 

religious marriage can have  drawbacks because:


  • it must be held at a religious venue;

  • it cannot  be held outdoors;

  • it has no real audience participation;

  • it must have religious content;

  • no same-sex marriages can take place;

  • it is restrictive regarding: readings, poems, timing, photography...even confetti, and

  • it can become a conveyor belt when there are multiple weddings at the weekend.


A registry office marriage only can have drawbacks because:


  • it can be characterless and bland;

  • it is a short ceremony;

  • sometimes there is limited space for family to attend;

  • there is no religious content (unless wanted);

  • there is no participation for the audience;

  • it can be held in an approved building only, and

  • there will be other couples queuing up,  waiting for you to complete.

So does that make Pamela a Humanist?


Well yes, in a way. We, Civil Celebrants officiants follow no religion but are very happy, should clients wish, to include religious elements. 


Humanists see the world in a more scientific way, whereas Civil Celebrants have a more open view. This expands possibilities for a ceremony that can have a reading or poem that includes religious comment (or none at all, of course; your choice).

Please book as soon as possible; no date is too early

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Now taking 2023 bookings 





"Pamela had been brilliant start to finish, in the preparation of the wedding and during the ceremony, her service was wonderful and so beautifully presented and executed, including intricate details, everything was catered for and all my guests said what a fantastic ceremony!
I am sorry to only just be writing this review, but I was incredibly happy with your service and would 1000% recommend!!! Thankyou again
Alexandra and Jack xxxxx"


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Pam supports diversity and equality of all kinds


Your Independent, fully qualified celebrant for the East Midlands

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